Saturday night my husband, Mike, and I went out on a date. Actually, it was our Valentines Day celebration. We finally found a babysitter that would watch our little dumplings on a Saturday night! We’ve been married almost ten years now, and it must be a sign of a good marriage because it doesn’t feel nearly that long. Sure, we’ve shared our ups and downs along the way, but our relationship has remained strong and solid throughout these hiccups of domesticity.
While our marriage has remained much the same, our dates are certainly much different now than they were three or four years ago. Many of those differences can be associated with our precious Dumpling A and Dumpling B. Here are some ways that our dates have changed:
This is easier said than done with two kids wanting attention at breakdown time (also known as six o’clock). I used to take my time trying on outfits and playing around with my makeup. Saturday, I had to space out my “getting ready” by making sure to perfectly straighten my hair in the morning, applying my makeup while the kids were napping, and planning my outfit out when I could squeeze a moment in. Time no longer allows for noncommittal wardrobe choices.
Reservations were booked in advance, a definite change from our pre-kids dates. We went to a Cajun seafood restaurant (I’m still celebrating being non-allergic to shellfish). We used to circle around, randomly looking for places to have dinner. When you’re paying someone hourly to watch your dumplings, you don’t dawdle so much.
No more cutting costs on the bill. Before having our kids, we used to go out two or three times a week, but for less expensive cuisine. When you only make it out once every month or two you can certainly afford to splurge a little. Appetizers, desserts, you name it we ordered it an ate it(see my post on getting back to the treadmill here)
Needless to say, there was to be no choosing a movie after dinner. We’d had our two hours and the date was over. We knew our oldest daughter would still be awake so we drove straight home after our feast. As our welcome home, we were rewarded with watching her bounding at us in joy.
Even though our dating life has drastically changed, we are still lucky enough to enjoy each others company after almost ten years of marriage and two kids. Having our dates so spaced out from one another, while definitely not ideal, has me appreciating them, and him, even more.
What is your dating life like with your husband? How has it changed?